Alzheimers Grandma Deathbed

[Blessed]

My Grandma is on her death bed tonight.

She is 90 something years old in a nursing home. Maybe almost 100 years old. How sad I don't know this. Just 90 something.

She is/was a child of the great depression. She's at the end stages of Alzheimer's. I don't know anything about the end stages of Alzheimer's but the Doctors and nurses are saying it's something about not eating or drinking.

I feel like I'm supposed to be at her death bed but I'm being told no. That it's too graphic and they are considering Morphine injections? I don't know how any of this stuff works and I didn't know nursing homes could just kick the bucket with morphine at a nurses say so. Perhaps they just want to get off work and go home like every other lazy good for nothing SOB out there so just shoot her up with Morphine and be done with it.



Please pray for her to get better or pass. I don't want her to die. She has been part of my life since I was a baby and I love her very much. But, while she was living she explicitly stated over, and over again, ad infinitum, she don't want to be a burden to anyone in her old age. Well I believe in honoring peoples wishes but when she got Alzheimer's she legally lost the right to make her own decisions. Well my Mom, being the heaven sent kind hearted angel she is, well, Mom throws away $5,000.00+ per month in nursing home care costs with weekly entertainment and 24/7 care. But Grandma really doesn't know who she is or where she is or who any of us are. Not really. She has conversations with invisible people. People from her past. Etc. Look I feel guilty saying this but it's been a decade of my Mom chucking all her money and time away and it's time for my Grandma to A) get better or B) pass into heaven. i mean I know I sound like a jerk for saying this but it is what it is. And I'm just tired of seeing my Moms finances and time getting sucked away for nothing. It's not for nothing but like I said the real her would have never permitted my Mom do to this because she was adamant about not being a burdon on others.

She was a devout Christian, and I am certain she is going to heaven. Because if she's not nobody is and I need to just take up a life of Hedonism before it's too late. Grandma worshiped Jesus Christ as Lord, introduced me to Charles Stanly, and went to Church, Bible Study, etc etc for years. She was one of those people with bibles filled with notes. She would take notes at church and from sermons on TV. Notes notes everywhere.

She is a good person and I love her very much but am worried more about how hard this will be on my Mom. Grandma was also adamant about nobody crying for her passing and demanded nobody cry because she would be in heaven with the Lord. But as everyone knows that doesn't matter for those still stuck on this earth who are mourning their loss. I will feel very bad because now a huge part of my life is gone but this has been in the works since forever. And when I see how much money and time my Mom, buckets of cash, just pouring cash into her , anything to just keep her going (this nursing home has all these activities with banjo players, magicians, singers, dancers, 5 bed wetting changes per day all these other things she's paying for.. it's just a huge, huge waste of my parents cash. My parents need this money because old age runs on both sides of the family and they need it for their care which will obviously be sky high in the future even if there is no USD crisis. It's common for people on both sides of my family to live to be 90-100+ even if they were drinkers smokers and card players.



I feel guilty for wanting her to pass but I really think it's best. I mean I don't want her to pass... but I kind of do.. but I don't. One of the other family members made mocking comments at me in the living room.. because I complained about how much it's costing (my parents do not care how much it costs even though it's draining them dry) and suggested comparing this posh nursing home to a government nursing home ...to see what that $5k month (vs. free) is really getting someone. Then he started yelling "throw the old bag out on the street!" "she's a money pit!" "get rid of her!" mocking me in front of everyone like I am a selfish person for saying this ...."how would you like it if it was you in the government nursing home" etc.

I feel guilty but like I said before Alzhiemers she was adamant about not being a burden to others...and I'm just not seeing what good throwing buckets of money away is doing. I just want her to come through... and get better... or pass. She will go to heaven. I have zero doubt in this. So staying on earth is just delaying her inevitable appointment with the Lord ...and her place in Heaven forever. It just doesn't make any sense to me.

I am happy I got to tell her I love her and it seemed like she recognized me for a split second. Her name is Helen. Please pray for her recovery or passing. Sorry for the long winded entry ...but I'm back at home now w nobody to talk to.

[Kurieuo]

Sorry Blessed, but I can't control how I feel, and something feels amiss to me with your story.

[Nessa]

Are you worried about how you will be able to afford care for your parents if your mum 'wastes' all her money now?

[Blessed]

Sorry Blessed, but I can't control how I feel, and something feels amiss to me with your story.

Listen man. I thought about cursing you out. But I'm not going to. So I'll keep it simple.

Unless you're a prophet of God or someone divinely appointed - which you're not - I really don't care. If you think I'm a liar just don't comment on my videos - or YOU MAY cross examine me. Nothing to hide.

The only reason I can think for you feeling this way, in following up with the other comment you made, is that your life is so, and I mean so, absolutely boring and mediocre... that my boring life seems better than your boring life - so I must be a crazy ass liar.

Listen dude. I'm almost 40. Never married. No kids. No debt. Just me. Single. So I have time to run a business and do another things. I have money on my hands to play with. I don't have a wife or immediate family (wife and kids) occupying my time so I just do whatever I want. Travel, Gamble, Surf, whatever I want. And run a business remotely now (with a now virtual address in Los Angeles) and 3 months I might decide to go to Eastern Europe if I want. Your a moderator right? So you can call me a fantastic liar while you look up my IP Address to see if I'm in Ukraine. And while your at it look at the other comments and confirm I was in Las Vegas and Los Angeles too you jerk off.

[Blessed]

Are you worried about how you will be able to afford care for your parents if your mum 'wastes' all her money now?

Thank you Nessa. Yes and No. They have money and I make a decent income... but.. I'm insecure because I do not know what is going to happen in the future. I just know that they will eventually need the money for themselves. I just want them to be well taken care of. I want nothing for myself. I have always said that I never want an inheritance.

And yea.. Im a little worried, because, the rootless lifestyle I live, wastes allot of money, because I'm not settled like a normal person.

[Storyteller]

Unless your grandmother is in pain, a lot of it, they shouldn't be giving her morphine.
Why are they giving her it, do you know?

[Blessed]

Unless your grandmother is in pain, a lot of it, they shouldn't be giving her morphine.
Why are they giving her it, do you know?

No. I don't know. I was just told she is on her death bed and not able to eat or drink and if worse comes to worse they would give her morphine injection to help her pass as "optional". I did not think it was legal to do that. But that's just what I was told. I don't know anything about nursing home laws or what happens to all these old people when worse comes to worse. They have something called hospice but I don't know what hospice is allowed to do.

[Storyteller]

I'm in the UK so it could be different over here but as far as I'm aware morphine is only given as pain relief in the end stages of life. The side effect of continuos morphine is death. A hospice is for the terminally ill in the end stages of life.
My dad was in a hospice and the compassion and level of care was truly outstanding.
As far as I'm aware they wouldn't give morphine just to induce death.

[Nessa]

Yes, my dad passed like Sts dad... morphine to help with pain.

[Philip]

Blessed, sorry to hear about this situation. My mother passed away after 16 years with Alzheimer's - FAR longer than most last with that. That she can't eat or drink - this tells me she is very near the end, because this is the stage which their body is shutting down, and morphine helps with the pain - that is, if she truly already is to that point. As for the financial needs of one's parents, etc., while we must be prudent planners, we also must have faith in God to cover our deficits in life - if they are depending upon God, that is what will carry them through the future. So, don't base your faith in well being per clever financial moves and savings. There is all manner of things that we could be stressed and worry about, but it mostly does us no good - unless it motivates us to take action where action is possible. But whether action is possible or not, we must prayerfully rely upon God as to outcomes. I'll pray for her!

[claysmithr]

Sorry Blessed,

I hope she has a quick and painless passing. Remember she's going to a better place, the presence of the Lord!

[Kurieuo]

Sorry Blessed, but I can't control how I feel, and something feels amiss to me with your story.

Listen man. I thought about cursing you out. But I'm not going to. So I'll keep it simple.

Unless you're a prophet of God or someone divinely appointed - which you're not - I really don't care. If you think I'm a liar just don't comment on my videos - or YOU MAY cross examine me. Nothing to hide.

The only reason I can think for you feeling this way, in following up with the other comment you made, is that your life is so, and I mean so, absolutely boring and mediocre... that my boring life seems better than your boring life - so I must be a crazy *** liar.

Listen dude. I'm almost 40. Never married. No kids. No debt. Just me. Single. So I have time to run a business and do another things. I have money on my hands to play with. I don't have a wife or immediate family (wife and kids) occupying my time so I just do whatever I want. Travel, Gamble, Surf, whatever I want. And run a business remotely now (with a now virtual address in Los Angeles) and 3 months I might decide to go to Eastern Europe if I want. Your a moderator right? So you can call me a fantastic liar while you look up my IP Address to see if I'm in Ukraine. And while your at it look at the other comments and confirm I was in Las Vegas and Los Angeles too you jerk off.

Maybe I'm being daft, but I don't know why you're so offended. Do you believe everything everyone writes to you online? I don't know you. Your stories always seem embellished, they're not the norm. If they're not embellished, then why be offended by my not just flat-out accepting what you say? Who am I to you that it should matter. Noone. No need to get personal. I just find it hard to believe your stories. That's all.

[Blessed]

Maybe I'm being daft, but I don't know why you're so offended. Do you believe everything everyone writes to you online? I don't know you. Your stories always seem embellished, they're not the norm. If they're not embellished, then why be offended by my not just flat-out accepting what you say? Who am I to you that it should matter. Noone. No need to get personal. I just find it hard to believe your stories. That's all.

1) If you don't know why; I can't help you.

2) Obviously not. But I have no motive.

3) I don't care if my "stories always seem embellished" to you. I'm not going to change my writing style to suit your 6 second attention span.

4) It's offensive for obvious reasons. I shouldn't need to elaborate.

5) Not asking anyone to flat out accept anything and if you find something hard to believe then you may be quiet, cross examine, or speculative/play detective to prove me wrong or poke holes my story (without letting me know your trying to do this obviously).

6) Was it the series of paranormal experiences on the Queen Mary you didn't believe, the Las Vegas shooting experience I detailed, the shark attack I had at 19, or the recent shark encounter now at almost 40 (you're from QAU, the gold coast is the surfing dole capital of AU and shark sightings are not uncommon), or all the expensive wine I drink I a regular basis while making decent bank self employed. All are 100% true. I imagine once the Vegas CCTV casino videos are released and the 911 calls you will see me on video running away and hear the 911 calls. If they aren't already out there now.

7) I really don't need to prove anything but yea, last time I checked it's offensive to call someone a compulsive liar. But like you said. You're just some guy online. So why should I care. Like I said.. the only reason I can imagine for the compulsive liar accusation is that your life is so mediocre uneventful and boring; my boring life seems made up to you. If that's true I appreciate the unintended compliment. Thanks.

[RickD]

Maybe I'm being daft, but I don't know why you're so offended. Do you believe everything everyone writes to you online? I don't know you. Your stories always seem embellished, they're not the norm. If they're not embellished, then why be offended by my not just flat-out accepting what you say? Who am I to you that it should matter. Noone. No need to get personal. I just find it hard to believe your stories. That's all.

1) If you don't know why; I can't help you.

2) Obviously not. But I have no motive.

3) I don't care if my "stories always seem embellished" to you. I'm not going to change my writing style to suit your 6 second attention span.

4) It's offensive for obvious reasons. I shouldn't need to elaborate.

5) Not asking anyone to flat out accept anything and if you find something hard to believe then you may be quiet, cross examine, or speculative/play detective to prove me wrong or poke holes my story (without letting me know your trying to do this obviously).

6) Was it the series of paranormal experiences on the Queen Mary you didn't believe, the Las Vegas shooting experience I detailed, the shark attack I had at 19, or the recent shark encounter now at almost 40 (you're from QAU, the gold coast is the surfing dole capital of AU and shark sightings are not uncommon), or all the expensive wine I drink I a regular basis while making decent bank self employed. All are 100% true. I imagine once the Vegas CCTV casino videos are released and the 911 calls you will see me on video running away and hear the 911 calls. If they aren't already out there now.

7) I really don't need to prove anything but yea, last time I checked it's offensive to call someone a compulsive liar. But like you said. You're just some guy online. So why should I care. Like I said.. the only reason I can imagine for the compulsive liar accusation is that your life is so mediocre uneventful and boring; my boring life seems made up to you. If that's true I appreciate the unintended compliment. Thanks.

Blessed,

Don't listen to Kurieuo. Personally, I like your stories.*



*Even if they're not true.

[Kurieuo]

Blessed, for the record, I actually haven't called you anything.

I've merely asked upfront (in another thread), and here stated the feelings I have reading your posts. It's called raw honesty. Or perhaps I've just got a case of aspergers. Or possibly still, I just like be a$$. You take your pick.

You think I'm attacking, but I think I'm trying to be helpful to you. I'm pretty sure that I'm just putting to words thoughts that crossed others' minds. You get a chance to air things out.

Adding to my feelings though is that I cannot verify you at all. I've verified other people on the board, that they do exist, are at least who they identify as to some degree. I've seen their photos, Facebooks, exchanged emails, even spoken to some. While I believe your 40, single and without kids, when I check your profile you link to pages about yourself that don't exist:

• Facebook: Page not found
• Google+: Error 404
• Skype: Nothing
• Twitter: Page doesn't exist
• YouTube: does not exist

There's absolutely zero information I can verify about you. I'm open to having my feelings changed, and as such my suspicions put to rest. I'll even give a public apology, while I haven't called you anything but have I suppose put you on the spot in making my feelings known publicly. You got a real Facebook or other social media? Maybe we can exchange.