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Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Tue May 26, 2020 11:47 pm
by Nessa
They were all real letters in envelopes delieved to reception but did become a part of therapy as a by product

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Tue May 26, 2020 11:50 pm
by Nessa
Kurieuo wrote: ↑Tue May 26, 2020 8:26 am
Nessa wrote: ↑Sat May 23, 2020 6:32 pm I made a serious complaint against a professional and their first response back has been to lie and deny.

Please pray for truth to prevail

Thanks guys 😊
I didn't know my mum was in NZ? y:-?
Your mum is a he AND a therapist?

Now that IS disturbing :lol:

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Wed May 27, 2020 6:11 am
by Kurieuo
Nessa wrote: ↑Tue May 26, 2020 11:44 pm When I went into private practice with them from public, they up lifted stuff I wrote. About 80 hard copy pages. Claimed them as their own property. Didn't make copies and took the originals that belonged in my public health file.

Now it looks like it's too late to go the privacy comissioner cause after a year. The district health board is investigating at least.

It was letters I wrote. He said they were a 'diary' with 'entries' and a 'therapy idea'. Such a liar :shock:

Then when the health and disability commissioner asked them to submit all communication between us, they added it as letters then lied about them being real letters!

Then has used private info in their first response against me from the 'diary'

Can they even do that? If they are just a 'diary' processed in private sessions, they can't also claim they are 'communication' between us.

The letters had like personal traumatic stuff in them not directly related to them. And they submitted it all.

And they don't even own them! The DHB most likely do.
Now I know why you stopped writing to me! :esad:

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Wed May 27, 2020 6:14 am
by Kurieuo
Nessa wrote: ↑Tue May 26, 2020 11:50 pm
Kurieuo wrote: ↑Tue May 26, 2020 8:26 am
Nessa wrote: ↑Sat May 23, 2020 6:32 pm I made a serious complaint against a professional and their first response back has been to lie and deny.

Please pray for truth to prevail

Thanks guys 😊
I didn't know my mum was in NZ? y:-?
Your mum is a he AND a therapist?

Now that IS disturbing :lol:
Is it any wonder why people become therapists when they're so confused?

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Wed May 27, 2020 7:56 am
by Nessa
Kurieuo wrote: ↑Wed May 27, 2020 6:11 am
Nessa wrote: ↑Tue May 26, 2020 11:44 pm When I went into private practice with them from public, they up lifted stuff I wrote. About 80 hard copy pages. Claimed them as their own property. Didn't make copies and took the originals that belonged in my public health file.

Now it looks like it's too late to go the privacy comissioner cause after a year. The district health board is investigating at least.

It was letters I wrote. He said they were a 'diary' with 'entries' and a 'therapy idea'. Such a liar :shock:

Then when the health and disability commissioner asked them to submit all communication between us, they added it as letters then lied about them being real letters!

Then has used private info in their first response against me from the 'diary'

Can they even do that? If they are just a 'diary' processed in private sessions, they can't also claim they are 'communication' between us.

The letters had like personal traumatic stuff in them not directly related to them. And they submitted it all.

And they don't even own them! The DHB most likely do.
Now I know why you stopped writing to me! :esad:
Safer writing my secrets to Australians! y#-o

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Wed May 27, 2020 9:05 am
by RickD
Nessa wrote: ↑Wed May 27, 2020 7:56 am
Kurieuo wrote: ↑Wed May 27, 2020 6:11 am
Nessa wrote: ↑Tue May 26, 2020 11:44 pm When I went into private practice with them from public, they up lifted stuff I wrote. About 80 hard copy pages. Claimed them as their own property. Didn't make copies and took the originals that belonged in my public health file.

Now it looks like it's too late to go the privacy comissioner cause after a year. The district health board is investigating at least.

It was letters I wrote. He said they were a 'diary' with 'entries' and a 'therapy idea'. Such a liar :shock:

Then when the health and disability commissioner asked them to submit all communication between us, they added it as letters then lied about them being real letters!

Then has used private info in their first response against me from the 'diary'

Can they even do that? If they are just a 'diary' processed in private sessions, they can't also claim they are 'communication' between us.

The letters had like personal traumatic stuff in them not directly related to them. And they submitted it all.

And they don't even own them! The DHB most likely do.
Now I know why you stopped writing to me! :esad:
Safer writing my secrets to Australians! British Criminals y#-o
There,
FIFY

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2020 6:56 pm
by Philip
Nessa, any news from the district health board about the status of your case?

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2020 6:21 pm
by Nessa
Philip wrote: ↑Sat Jun 06, 2020 6:56 pm Nessa, any news from the district health board about the status of your case?
Thanks for asking.

I have had to withdraw from this point from being directly involved. Everything I have submitted still stands but my current therapist will take over. She is the one who originally made the complaint.

She needs to give a final response to the complaint by next friday. Then my ex therapist gets to respond one last time.

Then the HDC will either take no further action or formally investigate. At that stage, it is also passed back to the psychology board who can then do whatever they see fit to do. E.g do their own investigation.

At the moment the district health board are also investigating the letters to find out the ownership. Since he is denying they were real letters but that they were just a part of my public therapy, I am hoping they get taken off him. Then returned to my public health file.

He had uplifted all the letters from his public therapy office when he left the DHB job and went fully private.

This therapist has caused me more pain than anyone else in my life. He has now lied about me and caused so much hurt and I need to choose to forgive.

My mental health has greatly suffered especially since he won't admit to anything. Total professional abuse.

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2020 9:24 pm
by Philip
Ness, don't Emotionally or mentally give that guy that kind of power over you. Let go Of it and let God deal with him - and forgive - it WORKS!

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2020 2:45 am
by Nessa
Well the complaint went to a formal investigation as of a few months ago. This is rare to get this far in NZ

His latest response follows one rule... Deny everything and admit nothing. He diagnosed me with a Narcissistic personality disorder so I am being seen as having limited insight. I can't be objective apparently. Ugh.

I feel so gaslighted. My current therapist and I are fighting his so called diagnosis. I feel God told me to pray for him that he would have truth in his innermost being. (Also pray this for myself).

I don't know if he's majorly self deceived or out right knows he's lying? Or justifies it in a way he's not out right lying but isn't fully deceived.

Please pray that God would bring truth to this situation and His will will be done. I am not saying I know the full truth but when the other person won't admit anything that factually happened, it's hard to find the actual truth

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2020 4:30 am
by RickD
Nessa wrote:
I don't know if he's majorly self deceived or out right knows he's lying? Or justifies it in a way he's not out right lying but isn't fully deceived.
That sounds like something that a narcissist would say.
y:-?

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2020 7:39 am
by Nessa
RickD wrote: ↑Thu Dec 24, 2020 4:30 am
Nessa wrote:
I don't know if he's majorly self deceived or out right knows he's lying? Or justifies it in a way he's not out right lying but isn't fully deceived.
That sounds like something that a narcissist would say.
y:-?
Only if it's not true


And I hope you are joking :shock:

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2020 8:40 am
by Philip
Nessa wrote: ↑Thu Dec 24, 2020 7:39 am
RickD wrote: ↑Thu Dec 24, 2020 4:30 am
Nessa wrote:
I don't know if he's majorly self deceived or out right knows he's lying? Or justifies it in a way he's not out right lying but isn't fully deceived.
That sounds like something that a narcissist would say.
y:-?
Only if it's not true


And I hope you are joking :shock:
Like what chance is there that Rick isn't joking or sarcastic around here? :pound:

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2020 10:10 am
by RickD
Nessa wrote: ↑Thu Dec 24, 2020 7:39 am
RickD wrote: ↑Thu Dec 24, 2020 4:30 am
Nessa wrote:
I don't know if he's majorly self deceived or out right knows he's lying? Or justifies it in a way he's not out right lying but isn't fully deceived.
That sounds like something that a narcissist would say.
y:-?
Only if it's not true


And I hope you are joking :shock:
Of course I’m joking.

FWIW, you have never shown any symptoms of narcissistic disorder, or whatever the clinical term is. It's a pretty ridiculous β€œdiagnosis”.

The guy should have his license revoked.

Re: Being lied about in a complaint

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2020 10:52 am
by Nessa
Lol ok. I am just paranoid and this has really hit me hard.

But I believe God will work it for good.

I miss you guys :mrgreen: